We are one of those married couples who have the privilege
and challenge to live, love, and work together.
Lance and I met in the office. Office romances/marriages are increasingly
common. We probably have about a half
dozen couples here at our work. You see
these people daily and spend hours with them so it is not surprising that
romantic relationships develop. Some
people hold firmly to the rule to never date someone they work with because of
all the complications. In fact, Lance followed this rule steadfastly…that
is until he met me.
We developed mutual friendships. When there are work functions/parties, we don’t
have to worry about the other having fun because this is their crowd too so
mingling is effortless. Because we know
the same people, when we unwind in the evening, it is easy for the other person
to relate as we release our frustrations, joys, and happenings of the day. Moreover, if one of us is having a particularly sour day, it is
helpful to have the other so close for the moral/emotional support we need. Additionally, when my dad passed away, I was so immersed in my grief and the funeral, so it was especially helpful because Lance knew my boss and everyone and he communicated to work on my behalf. We also save gas and delay necessary
routine car maintenance with our commutes.
A large carpool (good thing we weren't fighting then) |
What makes it a challenge then? There are days that quite frankly, we don’t really like
each other, and on those days, carpool rides are AWKWARD. (Sometimes Lance and I carpool with
others). Fortunately, Lance and I are on
different floors. I am on the 12th
floor and he is on the 2nd so there is a distance. If we don’t want to see each other, it is
possible to avoid each other. However, because we know the same people, it can
be uncomfortable. Sometimes when a woman
argues with her significant other, she goes to work and wants to let off some
steam and frustration and simply to get advice or feedback. This is normal because you often become
friends with your coworkers, but it is hard when these same coworkers also know
your husband. Lance says that when we do
argue and he has to come to my floor, he feels everyone is looking at him with
distaste because they think he is a jerk.
I’ve tried to minimize my retelling of an argument because I don’t want
my husband to look bad, and because we always….and I mean, ALWAYS make up.
What is also difficult for me is managing the conflict
between the responsibilities of my job and my role as a wife. We are in two separate divisions, but occasionally, our work overlaps and we have to work with each other. I support the CEO, and I have to communicate
and represent him. There are times that
I don’t agree with what Lance is doing and I have to back up my boss, and it’s a
very uncomfortable situation when I’m standing next to my boss and not
my husband. However, we both respect
each other, and I think that is why it works.
Plus, I LOVE that I can sneak away to just see him when I miss him (even though I just saw him literally an hour ago).
I think couples who are not just in love with their significant other, but who are actually best friends....these are the couples that benefit most from working with each other. I love having Lance so close, and honestly, I wouldn't change it. What if one of us were offered a position at another company with a big raise ? It would have to be a REALLY REALLY SUBSTANTIAL raise for us to give up this luxury, privilege and blessing of working together.
Yep....I snuck away to see my husband. |
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